I’ve never been the type of woman who had her dream wedding planned since she was a little girl. No shade to those who have, it’s just not something I ever really thought of. It wasn’t anything I aspired to do – instead it was kinda like ‘Well if it happens, it happens’, ya know?
So when I got engaged to Damien last October, all of the wedding stuff hit me like a ton of bricks. Honestly, I didn’t even know where to start. When I told friends we were planning to get married the following October, they laughed and asked how many venues I’d visited yet (umm, none…?). They handed me stacks of magazines and as I flipped through, I started to realize that even though we were hoping for a relatively small wedding, there are loads of details that need to be considered and that the countdown starts, like NOW.
Well, it’s now been 5 months since Damo proposed, and I’ve learned a helluva lot in my first months of engaged life. For all my ladies out there who are wedding clueless like me (and to those who have gotten married and can relate), here’s a head’s up on 8 things that are bound to happen once you get engaged.
1 You become terrified of losing your ring.
The second that ring went on my finger, I was like, “Ohhhhh laawwwwd.” I have never in my life owned a piece of jewelry this expensive, and good GOD, I am terrified of something happening to it. But my friend Sasha gave me a great piece of advice: “When your ring isn’t on your finger, only have one other spot for it.” That way, you’re not leaving it beside the sink or on the arm of the couch and freaking dafuq out when you can’t remember where you put it last.
2 Literally everyone will want to take your photo.
Like, ALWAYS. Not just your wedding day, but the moment you get engaged, all the parties and get-togethers beforehand – girl, it is time for your close-up every damn day. And since I love all things that stain (tea, coffee, wine), I partnered with Crest to try their 3D White Whitestrips Supreme FlexFit to keep my pearly whites actually pearly. Yes, I am that crazy chick that wears them to the gym, takes them with me when I travel, and rocks them around town. These strips are awesome because they use the same enamel-safe whitening agent that dentists use, except I don’t have to pay mad money for dentist fees – hollllller. Here’s to keeping these babies sparkling all the way up until the big day.
3 The stress of finding a venue will begin immediately.
Guys, weddings are SERIOUS BUSINESS. It’s a cruel world out there when trying to find a venue, especially in a big city. You’re competing for Saturdays with literally every other person getting married. So, when Damien and I found the perfect spot to get hitched (Hotel Ocho downtown Toronto), we decided to get married on a long weekend, opting for a Sunday in order to secure the venue AND keep costs down.
4 You’ll spend a small fortune on wedding magazines.
Explain something to me – how does a wedding magazine cost like, $8 more than any other magazine? Same amount of pages, same amount of advertising, same paper quality – so why the extra dollahs? And ladies, even if you swore up and down like I did that you’d never be the type of person to buy one of these mags, trust me – you will. It’s like a rite of passage before you realize Pinterest is way cheaper and more effective.
5 You’ll attempt to have a forever manicure.
As much as people take photos of your smile, they also grab your hand to check out that rock … and no one wants to have grubby nailbeds next to a diamond. I’ve been trying to keep my nails painted whenever I know I’m going to an event – problem is, I usually remember right before I need to be somewhere, so I just slap on the polish and hope no one will look too closely. Keep a bottle of nude polish in your purse for emergency nail jobs, gyals!
6 Every day someone will ask how planning is going.
And every day you’ll have a minor panic attack. Internally, of course. Because every time someone asks, it will be another reminder of another day that has passed without ticking something off the list. When I first got engaged, a few of my friends gushed they loved the planning phase, but I now realize that those girls are masochists. Because planning is freaking hard and you need to have everything booked by like, yesterday. Just breathe, pour some wine, and grab your bridesmaids for support.
7 The weirdness you’ll feel when calling someone your ‘fiancee’ .
It’s SO WEIRD, guys. It was funny enough calling my 42-year-old partner my ‘boyfriend, but the word ‘fiancee’ just sounds so pretentious coming out of my mouth. Can’t I just call him my ‘huzz-to-be’ and call it a day?
8 How much more you love the person you’re with.
I know, I know – barf. But for reals, as stressful and overwhelming as the planning can be, it’s pretty amazing to know that someone wants to spend the rest of their life with you. Despite the anxiety of planning something so huge, I’ve also fallen more in love with Damien as we plan the day that we’ll become Facebook official. Every time I freak out, he says something so ridiculous to make me laugh, show off those pearly whites and make me realize why I’m marrying him in the first place.
This post was created in partnership with Crest after using their 3D White Whitestrips Supreme FlexFit.
All words, opinions, and wedding woes are my own.