Six Things Holding You Back From Success



1 Fear of the unknown.

It’s only four small letters, but fear has the powerful ability to bring even the most confident people to their knees. Fear of starting up a business, fear of asking for a raise, fear of speaking up in an important meeting. Rather than letting fear of the unknown paralyze you, face it head-on and use it to propel you forward. Visualize yourself aproaching your obstacle, tackling it, and moving on from it. Then the next time you face a challenge, you’ll be much more confident in trusting your voice and your vision. Plus, you know what they say: “If your dreams don’t scare you, they’re not big enough.”


2 Being a control freak.

Taking control of a situation is one thing, but being obsessed with controlling every aspect of your life will only limit how far you can push yourself. It’s okay to take risks. It’s okay to let your creativity run free and see what happens. You learn from those experiences and they allow you to grow and become successful. No one ever made history from taking the safe road.


3 Comparing yourself to others.

In a world where we’re bombarded with inspiring images, stories of success and curated lives on social media, it’s hard not to get caught up in the shuffle of comparing yourself to others. We often have a tendency to view the success of others as a direct correlation of what we haven’t achieved, asking the question, “Why can’t that be me?” Instead of internalizing that jealousy and negative energy, focus on what sets you apart and what makes you happy – where you want to carve your niche. Use the success of others not to hinder your own dreams, but to inspire you to drive forward and achieve your own goals.


4 Waiting for the ‘right’ time.

Because there’s no such thing. When I was starting up This Renegade Love, I kept putting off the launch date because it wasn’t the right time. Even though I was prepared, I was scared (again, the crippling fear). My boyfriend (totally exasperated) told me, “There will never be a ‘perfect’ time. The site you put out now is not going to be the site that it will be in a year from now. It’s a living thing that will evolve – it will grow and your readers will grow with it.” And he was bang-on. So whether you’re waiting to present your big idea to the CEO of your company or launch your small business online, do it when you feel prepared, not when you feel the world is ready for it. Because while you’re sitting around waiting for the right time, someone else is taking your ideas and running with them.


5 Focusing on your failures.

Got through your massive to-do list with razor-sharp productivity? Treat yourself to a night of relaxation and a Netflix binge. Hit a new milestone with your social media followers? Grab some cupcakes, a bottle of wine and ask your besties over for a toast. By focusing on your achievements rather than failures, you’ll be more likely to envision success and be able to approach challenges with a positive outlook. Harbouring that negative energy associated with the idea of failure will only cause you to dwell on it, and ain’t nobody got time for that.


6 Being too proud to ask for help.

In order to be successful, it’s important to know your strengths, but more importantly – your weaknesses. For me, it’s math (I can’t do it to save my life). For others, it may be writing or public speaking or social media. Rather than think you can do it all yourself (or, God forbid, try to) – just ask for help. It’s much better to have a sharp set of eyes look over your copy before you launch a marketing campaign, or for an accountant to double check your numbers before invoicing a client for a major project. Not only will it save you time, but it will let you focus your energy and time on the areas where you do excel.

  • Elaine Song says:

    The perfect read for my life at the moment. Even when you think you know these things, sometimes it takes putting it all together to really hit home. So well said!