Raise your hand if you have at any point felt bad about saying ‘no’ to someone.
Now, I can’t actually see if your hand is raised, but I can pretty much assume that all of y’all have it waving high in the sky. Because, as I know all too well, sometimes it is just so freakin’ hard to say no. We feel bad about it. We feel negative. We feel like people will judge us, call us assholes, jerks, uncooperative, all of the above.
But hey – I’m not judging. God, no. I was the WORST when it came to uttering that small, two-letter word. I was that person that would go to the cash register with an item, find out it’s extortionately priced and STILL buy it because I felt bad about saying “Um what? No thanks.” If an acquaintance asked for help with a project, I’d be all, “Yeah, I can totally help you out with that,” even though I was already one hour away from pulling an all-nighter.
I’m getting better, though. Much better. The older I get and the longer I work for myself, the more comfortable I am saying ‘no’ to things. Weekly events, coffee catch-ups, bridal showers – sometimes the things that are asked of us take up a lot of time, money and effort. And even though last year was my Year of Yes, I’ve also discovered there are times in both life and work when it’s totally okay to say no and not feel guilty about it.Read More
For my pal Sasha Exeter and I, girls’ night out included shot clocks, three-pointers and thousands of screaming fans as we hit up the Raptors playoff game against the Miami Heat on Thursday night. It was only the second time in Raptors history that the team had made it past the first round of the playoffs…. so how the hell did we score such coveted seats? Our pals at BMO invited us to experience the best girls’ night out ever, hooking us up with two tickets and access to the Air Canada Centre before doors opened to check out all the cool activations taking place during playoffs (it was Sash’s birthday too, so a few cocktails were had in celebration). As someone who grew up in a basketball-obsessed home, I was beyond stoked.
That was the exact point last Wednesday when the tears started to well up in my eyes as I sat in a room of 20 media at Baycrest, an academic health sciences centre here in Toronto that focuses on aging and brain health. We were talking about the effects of dementia, the utter devastation of losing your memory as you age and how delaying the onset of Alzheimer’s by 10 years would essentially eradicate the disease. What I had assumed would be a regular media event turned out to be so much more, and I never imagined the experience would have such a massive impact on me.
It’s very rare for a great brand name to come to you overnight. Or if it does, chances are, it’s already been thought up by someone else (sorry). And yet, naming your brand is one of the most important parts of building your business, and it’s one of the most common questions I get asked…
‘So… how did you come up with the name This Renegade Love?’